Help for bereavement

Most of us will- at some point in our lives- have experienced losing someone very close to us, and the feelings of grief and heartache that this causes. Grief after bereavement is a journey that we have to go on to heal, and there are many different stages including shock, numbness, denial and anger. These emotions are all extremely common following bereavement, and completely normal, and although it may not feel like it at the time, they are all emotions we need to experience to come out the other side.

Grief can cause us to act out of character or do things we wouldn’t normally do, whether that be turning to alcohol to “escape” the emotions (although in the long run this will only make things worse), avoiding social situations when you would normally enjoy others’ company, not concentrating properly at work or burying your head in the sand to avoid confronting your feelings.

It is probably one of the hardest cycles of emotions we, as human beings, have to deal with. Some people will describe grief as having every single petal ripped away from a flower: you feel empty, shocked, low, depressed and numb all at the same time, but bit by bit the petals will start to grow back on the flower. It won’t happen at once, but over time things will get easier and easier and your life will start to take shape again. At the time you may feel as though you’re never going to be happy again, but you will, and you will heal both your heart and your mind.

It may sound very simple, but talking can be extremely effective in the healing process. It is unhealthy to bottle emotions up, and so talking these through with a friend, or someone you trust, can be very therapeutic and helpful on your healing journey. Releasing emotions is something we are not always very good at, but it is also something that is extremely important, to avoid suppressing our true thoughts and feelings. Relaxation is another important factor in healing; take time out to rest your mind and your body as both have been through trauma. Never, ever feel ashamed of your emotions; take your time to heal and you will get through to the other side again.

I have seen many, many clients over the years who are dealing with bereavement, and simply talking through their emotions helps enormously, enabling them to “un-bottle” feelings of shock, anger, pain and despair. Sometimes people just need someone to listen and advise in order to move them forwards in their healing process.

Hypnotherapy or combining hypnotherapy and a Positive Thinking Styles course can help to change the way you react to certain situations or people so that you can gain more control and insight into yourself. Once you can understand yourself better then you can start to make positive changes to your life.

For any more information about bereavement or to book a free initial consultation please call Rob on 01202 245020 or 07920 885015.

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