Regardless of our background, upbringing and current place in society, we can all suffer from poor self-image. It really doesn’t matter if you’re a supermodel, famous actor or a modest working class citizen; you are still a human being with thoughts and feelings about the way you look and how you perceive yourself. Poor self-image can be caused by many different factors, including being bullied at school or work, or perhaps something that happened during childhood. There is a huge amount of pressure on people in today’s society to create the “perfect” image of themselves- never has it been so important to look flawless and talk and act in the correct way. The media creates a large amount of this pressure but we can also cause this ourselves. It is not at all uncommon to look in the mirror and see things we don’t like, and in extreme cases this can lead to anger and hatred.
What we need to do in this situation- and of course this is easier said than done, but it is entirely possible- is to continuously talk ourselves up. If you’re always putting negative thoughts in to your head about the way you look then every time you look in the mirror, all you’re going to see is someone you dislike. Write down 5 things you like about yourself, whether it’s the colour of your hair, the shape of your eyes or that you’re good at making people laugh- it really doesn’t matter what they are, but we can all find things we like about ourselves.
Ask a close friend or family member to tell you what they like about you (and it doesn’t have to be about the way you look, it can be attributes such as being kind, loyal, funny or smart). Keep these things in your head or get that person to write them down and keep them with you all the time. Refer back to them when you’re feeling doubt about yourself and keep talking positively to yourself all the time. If you start hearing that negative, self-doubting voice, quickly push it aside and replace it with the happy, positive, friendly voice.
If you’ve had poor image for the majority of your life and it’s causing you anxiety, it is going to take practise to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones, but it can be done, and why shouldn’t you feel good about yourself? You deserve to look at yourself and see someone you believe in; someone you like and someone you enjoy being.
Hypnotherapy or combining hypnotherapy and a Positive Thinking Styles course can help to change the way you react to certain situations or people so that you can gain more control and insight into yourself. Once you can understand yourself better then you can start to make positive changes to your life.
For any more information on how to help to change your own self image or to book a free initial consultation please call Rob on 01202 245020 or 07920 885015.
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